04 April 2026

Memories of Africa: The Adventure of our lives.


In Tarifa, we could finally see the hills of the African coast, on the other side of the Gibraltar Strait. Alia and I really struggled realizing we were finally there; the moment had finally arrived. Our first day in Africa was a total blast. We were really euphoric. We could not believe, two years after we had first talked about it, coming back from Daniel's cabin, we were finally in Africa! 


We absolutely loved Tangier. I think it would be fair to say, eventually, it became my favorite town in Morocco, because of its authenticity. We were so excited that, for what I believe was the first and last time in all our travels, we accepted to follow a professional guide. Larby took as all over town. Although, I think, what Alia enjoyed the most was the opportunity to indulge ourselves in the most awesome mid-day dinner, right in the middle of Ramadan. READ MORE  


20 February 2026

When A Man Loves a Woman

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You are about to read the most beautiful love story ever. It is the story of Alia and Javi.



 
On February 16th, 2010, Javi was finishing his bicycle tour across the American West. However, this time he thought he could take a break from his bicycle and just hitchhike a ride. He could have never imagined he would stay that night at Alia's home in Missoula, MT. The next morning he prepared a Spanish tortilla for breakfast, and Alia fell in love with him. Yet, after breakfast, Alia left for school that morning, totally convinced she would not see the strange biker again. Javi, however, felt it would be a good idea to leave his contact information in a Thank-You note, before taking off to continue his ride towards Helena, MT. 

When he finally made it to his destination a few days later, he saw Alia had written him on Facebook. Thus, as he was passing through Missoula again on his way back from Helena, he thought he would call his new friends and ask if he could stay with them again. Alia said he could; but, in return, the next morning Javi would have to cook breakfast for them. He could not be happier that they had enjoyed his Spanish tortilla. 

They really enjoyed their little party the next morning. They had such a good time cooking, chatting, joking... that Javi almost forgot - or so he wished he had - that he had to leave. He hated the thought, but he did not want to overstay his welcome. Actually nobody seemed to be happy to see him go. In fact, it felt to Javi that Alia looked rather sad. The whole situation was absurd: it was almost sunset, nobody could understand why he was leaving that late, Javi knew that if he left he would never see Alia ever again. However, as courageous as everybody thought he was, he was not able to gather enough courage to ask, if he could just stay one more night. He so took off and, with each pedaled, as he was slowly leaving town, he could not stop mortifying himself for not having said anything. He was not going to see Alia ever again! He was completely immersed in thoughts. His head was boiling. He kept racking his brain over some excuse he could use to come back. He was completely absorbed in thoughts. His head down. His eyes stuck on the ground. All of a sudden, his bike crashed!! There was a pick-up truck sitting on the shoulder lane and Javi had totally run into it. He was ecstatic, he had found the excuse he had been looking for since the moment he left!   

Javi and Alia married three months later in Missoula. It was the beginning of six wonderful years of marriage, playing and working, traveling all over and meeting all sorts of people everywhere: Latin America, Europe, Africa! However, not everybody was happy: Alia was her mother's only child and she hated that Javi had stolen her baby. Throughout the six years of marriage she kept whispering into Alia's ears, that she deserved so much more than a half-blind guy. Alia's love was strong; but, little by little, she kept giving in. Early in the morning of February 19th 2016, exactly ten years from this writing, Alia disappeared from the workshop, where Javi and Alia had been staying during their visit to Cape Town. When she returned at sunset, she told Javi she "was going to leave him, because she was tired of dragging him around the supermarkets". In reality, however, Alia had - as foolishly as helplessly - fallen in love with the cassanova asshole Land Rover mechanic, who had been helping them with their car. He had spent the previous weeks likewise whispering into Alia's ears that she deserved so much more than a half-blind guy; but certainly all what he cared for was to feed his macho ego,conquering a blond, blue-eyed, white young "American Señorita". Once the charade became self-evident, Alia completely broke down. Alia felt like dying, tried to commit suicide and flew immediately back to Montana, where she was diagnosed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Back home Alia's mother could not be happier to have her baby back, and did not waste a minute to start poisoning her against Javi. It was not going to be difficult: It was too hurtful for Alia to take responsibility for deadly injuring her marriage, and she really needed a more accommodating narrative. It had all been Javi's fault. He would not be able to see or talk with Alia again. Almost three years after they separated in CapeTown, Alia requested an order of protection against him and filed for divorce. Javi did not want to see their love end, shredding each other to pieces in court and so refused to hire a lawyer. He paid a hefty price for his romanticism: he got shredded to pieces by the courts. When all had been said and done, he had lost everything: he lost the little precious eye-sight he had been born with; he lost his love; he lost his belongings. 

Javi, however, never gave up. It had always been clear to him what had happend to Alia. He knew better than anybody else, how amazing their journey across Africa had been, how happy they were, how much they loved each other all until they met the cassanova asshole in Cape Town. It had been long clear to him, that some people could not stand it to see them so in love and happy. He knew Alia had been manipulated against him. He would not stop fighting to have his voice heard. What they had done to him should not happen to anybody ever again. Everybody should know what the System does to those, who choose happiness over money. He realized the best strategy would be to make a fantastic scientific achievement, so that everybody would want to listen to him. He therefore spent the following years fully focused on his neuroscientific Ph.D. research. Have you ever wondered how does the mind work? How does learning take place?, how do ideas get generated?, how is reasoning conducted?, how does our sense of consciousness emerge? Now, you can finally find out from Javi's first ever scientific model of the brain. However, perhaps, you will first want to read Alia and Javi's love story...

 This is Alia and Javi's "Vamos Travel" old travel blog. Alia started it in 2013, some months after their return from their travels across Central America and Europe between 2010 and 2012. They had just decided they will go to Africa for a big last adventure before getting serious in life. They felt the blog would be an excellent channel to share their experiences and all what they had learned throughout their travels. Little did they know, however, soon all their dreams would be shattered in Cape Town, and the blog would eventually serve as testimony for all what happened. If you like the story, please, share it with the people you love. What they did to Alia and Javi should not happen ever again. Everybody should know what the System does to those, who choose happiness over money. Humankind needs to break free from its bondage to money. If you have any comment, please, share it as well. 
   


Chapter 1 - The most beautiful love story.

Chapter 2 - A life full of dreams against all odds.

Chapter 4 - The right way of thinking.

Chapter 5 - Mother and Daughter: Together Forever.


Chapter 6 - Courage, Effort and Success

Chapter 7 - Breaking Free: The Birth of Monkey and Bunny.

Chapter 8 - Life is beautiful

Chapter 9 - Goodbye Robyn

Chapter 10 - New York Farewell Party: Going To A Place, "I'M So Tired of You America".

Chapter 11 - Madrid!

Chapter 12 - Memories of Africa

Chapter 13 - Alia got conquered and collapsed

Chapter 14 - How to Be Happy without Love.

Chapter 15 - Where Am I? What Happened?

Chapter 16 - When Will We Ever Be Able to Get Free From Our Masters, the Alpha Humans?

Chapter 17 - The Word Running the Mind.

Chapter 18 - I Know Best; This Is My Love, These Are Your Dreams; Now, Do As I say.

Chapter 19 - Who Is To Be Blamed?

Chapter : Justice For Sale in the Beautiful Free World: Once We Chopped the Shepherd's Head Off, the Wolves Fineally became Free to Prey on the Sheeps to Their Bellies' Desires.

Chapter : The Tyrant Trope and the Rise to Power of the Athenian Democracy: Why do the Shepherd and the Wolves Hate Each Other So Much?

Chapter : Julius Caesar and the Neverending Battle Between Tyrants and Oligarchs.

Chapter : Mass Media: The New Church, My Lawyer the Good Cop.

Chapter : The Secret to Happiness: To be Loved By The People Around You.

Section : System Ideologies, Civilization and the emergence of Individual and collective consciousness
Chapter : The rise of Civilization.

Chapter : The Science of Thought Writing: How to Cast the System's Spell and Get Everybody on the Same Page (Draft).

Chapter : Ideologies: Let us follow the Shepherd to greener pastures.

Chapter : The Emergence of Individual Consciousness.

10 March 2017

South Africa: the dream turned into a nightmare


South Africa: the dream turned into a nightmare


I am writing because I am in a desperate situation because of my South African visa. At first glance, it is reasonable to think a visa is not such an important thing, that could be the cause of such critical circumstances. However, if I am able to tell my full story, it would be easy to understand, I indeed find myself under extreme stress and hardship, without me having done anything to deserve the punishment I am facing.

Summarizing it really briefly, I am a Swiss/Spanish man with a severe visual disability (I am legally blind with only about 5% visual accuity left). I am currently alone (without any close friends or relatives), in the surroundings of Cape Town. I first came to South Africa by car. Me and my wife traveled in our 1974 Land Rover Series III, from spain, all across Africa, all the way down to cape Town. It was an amazing experience. We were so euphoric when we reached South Africa: we had made it! We were having a blast in our first weeks in Cape Town. south Africa is pretty developed, so we felt like home. We had left behind all the struggles and difficulties of all other less developed countries in Africa. However, one day, all of a sudden, everything collapsed: my wife disappeared early in the morning and did not come back until sunset, just to tell me she was going to leave me: some casanova mechanic had stepped between un and splitted us off. He had been seducing her and eating her mind, until she ended up leaving me, screaming I was a useless blind man. However, like most disabled people, I am a fighter. I am a strong person. I have traveled across 70 countries and I never give up. This time, I was not going to throw myself to the ground and cry either. I was going to figure things out. I decided I was going to show my wife I may be blind, but not useless. I came back to Cape Town determined to sort everything out: first I needed to repair the Land Rover. Then, I was going to get everything ready again. Lastly, I was going to need somebody who would like to drive and travel with me. As a matter of fact, something inside kept telling me, if I was able to sort everything out, if I could get by myself everything ready, my wife would wake up and she would be my travel companion. However, Cape Town is a rather rough place for a pedestrian, who cannot drive, and I have gone through quite an ordeal to get everything ready. I have been assaulted twice in the last month. I have gone through days without eating, because I had to walk 5kms to the nearest shop and it is very dangerous to walk in Cape Town. But I did it!: With the help of David, at Roverland, I was able to figure out what was the real problem with the car and got it running again. Thanks to Greg, I got the solar panels and the dual battery system setup, I got my new car freezer wired up. I finished the roof rack. I got my Hannibal rooftop tent figured out, etc. Sadly, by the time I had finally everything sorted out, I only had one week left on my South African visa. Since it became quickly clear it would be impossible to extend my tourist visa, I decided I will fly out of South Africa before my visa's expiration date, and then come back after some weeks, to get ninety more days on my visa; that would allow me to also travel across and see south Africa. However, I was assaulted on my way to the airport to take my plane. Then it became impossible to leave South Africa before my visa would expire. The punishment I now face for overstaying my visa is merciless. I am told I have to give up everything: I have to give up my Land ROver and all my dreams to travel across Africa; all my work, efforts and energies over the last year. I have to leave South Africa immediately and accept I will be banned from coming back for at least one year.  

We had first arrived to South Africa on New Year's Eve of 2015, after crossing the Namibian dessert. We were totally euphoric: we have made it! We had just crossed all Africa, all the way from Spain and reached South Africa! we were now leaving behind all the difficulties and struggles involved with traveling across all other less developed countries in Africa. In South Africa we felt like home: we went to see the new Star Wars movie on IMax, We were going shopping and buying nice food without spending a fortune. we were again enjoying "ice scream"! We went to Robben Island, we hiked Table Mountain. From now on, everything was going to be so much easier. In Cape Town we were going to be able to prepare and get fully equipped for our return journey across Eastern africa, even better than when we first left Europe. South Africa has leading, world-class technology in overlanding and we were going to be able to find everything we needed for our adventure: car freezer, rooftop tent, etc. Now we also needed a roof rack to free space inside the car and set up everything. moreover, south Africans appreciate and know 4x4 vehicles like our old Land Rover much better than in Europe. Here we would finally find the skills, parts and equipment to completely fix up our car.

We were referred to go talk to a mechanic in Killarney Gardens, who could build a roof rack for our car. Gary, however, explained he does not really work for the money and he only works on what he enjoys. He really did not feel like building a roof rack, but, as he appreciated and was impressed with our story, he would be happy to help us, if we were ready to build it ourselves. He would be happy to tell us what needed to be done, teach us how to do it, and let us use all the tools and equipment necessary. He explained he was not interested in the money; it was true, he was interested in conquering my wife...

We were naive: we only saw it was an excellent proposition. We were going to learn new skills, have fun and we would be able to get all fixed up very affordably. We therefore spent the following weeks in Gary's workshop; building the roof rack and working on our Land Rover. Actually, since I am severely visually disabled, it was my wife, Alia, who was doing most of the work. She and Gary went along really well. Gary is a heavy smoker and, as he had explained, not the most hard-working person. So he would constantly take smoke breaks, go check how Alia was doing and have some chat. I could see them hanging out together quite long times, but I thought it would be stupid of me to feel jealous. Gary is 57 (thirty years older than Alia), he is on his third marriage and has two married sons. I know Alia's biggest dream has always been to build a family. I thought I knew Alia was intelligent and would never fall for a man like Gary.

However, one morning Alia disappeared and did not come back until sunset, to tell me she was going to leave me, because she was sick of dragging around a blind man. The next day she told me she was going to stay with Gary the next several days, until she takes her flight back home to the US. That really hurt me very deeply and so i complained and asked my wife not to stay with Gary. Gary and Alia went as far as lieing about my wife trying to hang herself, in order to get me shut up and out of their way. 

Thus, all of a sudden, I found myself from living the most amazing adventure of our lives, to be abandoned, alone in a city as dangerous and violent as Cape Town, stuck with a broken down car, which I could not even drive if it were running. But I am a fighter and I never give up. I will never throw myself to the ground and start crying over my misfortune. I said I was going to show my wife, I may be blind but not useless. I was going to get back on my feet and sort things out with or without her.

It has been quite an ordeal, as it is extremely complicated and dangerous to move around a city as big and vast as Cape Town; particularly for somebody who cannot drive. First I had to repair the car, but most mechanics were trying to rip me off; I looked so desperate and vulnerable, they thought I would be an easy prey. Nevertheless, thanks to David at Roverland, I was able to figure out what was the real problem and confirm only a minor repair was needed. So, I was finally able to fix my Land Rover and get it ready. I was also able to sort out everything: thanks to Greg, I got my solar panels wired up, so that I had an alternative source of power, if my batteries go again flat in the middle of the dessert. Greg also helped me setting up the dual battery system. I also manage to wire up the car freezer, the rooftop tent, etc. With everything figured out, it should be easy to find people wanting to drive and travel with me.
 
Disappointingly, the problem I was now facing was, my South African visa was getting close to expire. At first glance, it may seem the 90 days allowed by the South African tourist visa, is more than enough time. However, all this endeavor of putting everything back together and get again ready has been extremely difficult and complicated.

In the last month I have been assaulted twice and have suffered a handful of other attempts of assault. Since i am not able to drive, the only way for me to move around is by public transportation; but this is very dangerous. Here everybody keeps insisting I should not trust anybody (at the same time they say that, however, they expect me to trust them0. But, since I do not see well, I constantly need to ask for help; but then, if I trust the person offering help, I risk to fall in a trap.

My Land Rover was in a farm and I had a 5km walk to get to the nearest shop. I have gone through days without eating, because I did not have any food. I was insisted I would be crazy if I try to walk alone in Cape Town; it is very dangerous and somebody will end up chopping my throat to get my phone. As a matter of fact, one month ago, I had my smartphone stolen. Fortunately, they did not need to chop my throat to get it; but it certainly made everything even more complicated for me. I lost most of my contacts, I have been several days unable to communicate, I have not been able to use some mobile applications that are critical for me; like GPS navigation, video magnifier and Uber. Having my smartphone stolen gave me one other task to solve: I had to find and buy a new smartphone. But not just any phone would do it, because I need something very special, with a big screen, so that I can see it and use it well.

Since it was becoming clear it was not going to be possible to get everything ready, get back on the road, travel across South Africa and leave before my visa would expire, I investigated what were the options I could have my South African tourist visa extended (although I have always heard it is extremely difficult). one week ago I called my consulate, and I was told it would be impossible. I was adviced to take a flight out of South Africa and come back after a few weeks. Otherwise, if I overstayed my visa, even if it were for just one day, I would risk being deported and be banned from being allowed back in South Africa for at least one year. 

As disappointing and absurd as it was, since it became clear it was the only option, I decided to book a flight to go to Madagascar on March 9th.. However, on that Thursday, I was assaulted when I was trying to catch a taxi, on my way to the airport. After the attack, I still tried to put myself back together, but it just became impossible to get on any flight that would take me out of South Africa before my visa would expire.

Last Thursday, March 9th, on my way to the airport, I went to Bellville, as I know, there is a bus and taxi terminal next to Bellville train station. As soon as I made it there, I started asking where I could find a taxi that would take me to the airport. Very quickly somebody offered help to guide me to the right place. However, soon I could notice he was feeling my pockets; in fact, he had already started unzipping one of them. I reacted quickly by running away from him. Then I started hearing some man announcing the momentary departure of a taxi to the airport. I found it quite a coincidence, so felt a bit suspicious, but perhaps it was just my turn to be lucky, so I approached the man to ask. He confirmed his taxi would be leaving soon to the airport. He asked me to step a bit out of the crowd and wait. It was all a trick; the man should have heard I was looking for a taxi to the airport. The man guided me behind some van and as soon as he had me there he tried to stick his hand in my pants' left pocket. I started screaming for help immediately and he ran off right away.

It became very clear to me I was in serious danger. There was quite a crowd around there, but obviously many of those people were there trying to commit a crime. I felt like swimming in a pool with a school of piranhas. I thought I would start screaming: "security!, security!", hoping  that some security agent would come help me. Nobody came. I approached a group of people, asking where I could find a security agent; one man told me to "f*** off". Finally, somebody pointed me towards a security office. I was afraid it would be again a trick; but this time it was true. I told the security agent inside, they had already tried to rob me twice. I needed help finding a taxi to go to the airport. Unfortunately, the security agent was busy with some other stuff and was not paying much attention to me. Another man standing at the security office, then told me there was "over there, very close" a taxi that could take me to the airport. Since the man was standing right next to the security office, I thought I could trust him. I therefore followed him back to the curb. But no taxi seemed to be right there. The man asked me to follow him up the street. But we reached the corner and I was still not able to see any taxi. I started getting worried again. A couple of more men had gathered around me offering help. Then a woman was coming from behind. As she was getting closer she kept explaining there was a taxi stop right there, She told me she knew those men who were trying to help me, and I could trust them. She offered herself to guide me to the taxi stop; since she was a girl, I did not have anything to fear. The men left and I started following the woman. I was moving away from the crowd further and further. Following the woman did not seem to help; it still looked like we would never get to any taxi.

All of a sudden the men reappeared. One of them grab me by the jacket and started talking to me agressively: "See white man...". I tried to free myself and get out of there as quicly as possible. I also started desperately screaming for help. It was, however, too late, the other men had also already got a hold of me and they were pushing me to the ground. I was also now too far from the crowd that the men would get concerned somebody may hear my screams and come to my help. The cars that were passing right next to us would ignore as well everything that was happening. I realized I was now in a very dangerous situation and I may be getting to the end of my life. I thought my only option to stop the attack was to drag myself towards the middle of the road, so that we would obstruct traffic and, that way, force the cars to intervene. That saved me: as we were now in the middle of traffic, the cars started honking, causing the men to finally leave me alone. I tried hard to get back on my feet. As I was sitting on the road, I could still see a few of my things lying around me and the men and the woman quickly picking them up before running away. I could still see my bag of eye-medicines to my left and my big, white, plastic bag with food to the right. As one man took the white, plastic bag, I still manage to say: "it's just food!".  The man opened the bag, looked inside, confirmed it was only food and then decided to put the bag back on the ground and run away. As I shifted my sight to the left, looking for my bag of medicines, the person who had taken it had already disappeared: I just cannot help feeling so bad for not being quick enough to explain, those were just medicines...

I was devastated. I asked for help to the people I saw walking towards me. I tried to explain them I was blind and I had just been assaulted. Nobody stopped: they all passed by, without even turning their eyes towards me. As best as I could, I dragged myself back to the security office. Then they did help me. Finally, I was able to get to the airport. However, at that time, there were only two planes left to take me out of the country: one to London-Heathrow and the other to Amsterdam. Unfortunately, both were fully booked. I repeatedly, for several times, asked and insisted to be allowed to speak with a South African immigration officer; the airline representative and the airport authorities insisted to deny me that option. Finally, my South African visa expired before I could do anything to leave the country.

I am breken and destroyed. I have been beaten up and ripped off. I am alone. But that all is not the worst of it. The worst is the fear I feel now for the South African security forces. I know, since they have already told me and I have already witnessed, they will not do absolutely anything against the people who attacked and assaulted me. In all honesty, I need to say, I know that would be the same anywhere in the world. The worst and what is most devastating to me is that it is actually me who is facing the most merciless punishment. Now I am instructed to give up everything: I am told I need to give up my car, I need to give up my dreams and all my work, efforts and energies during this last year. I am being instructed to immediately exit South Africa and accept I will be banned from being allowed back for at least one year.

It is just not fair nor reasonable: I have always done everything possible to follow the rules. I have not harmed nor caused any damage to anybody. More to the contrary, I have made quite a significant spending in South Africa. I just ask I am allowed to peacefully leave the country with my car, If I need to be banned from coming back to South Africa, I will accept it. But, please, do not tell me to give up everything,

I would be endlessly grateful, if I were given the chance to explain to a South African representative with enough authority, what has happened to me and the problem I am facing. I am sure the South African authorities would have no problem to understand and act with justice, if they are given the chance to hear my story.










29 December 2015

My question refers to a conflict I currently have with my wife. My wife left me 2.5 years ago, while we were traveling across Africa and it has been impossible to communicate with her ever since then:I have been unable to have a single conversation with her since she left me in Cape Town in Feb 2016 (after she fell in love with a 56-years old cassanova South African asshole).
 We married in Missoula in Jun 2010 and, although the first two yearss were complicated (she is very immature and we had frequent, stupid fights for irrelevant reasons, like she getting mad at me because I would suggest she rise the seat of her bicycle) we had build a very strong relationship (she cared for her marriage very much and was intelligent enough to realize there was no point in starting a fight for the first stupid reason). Everybody who knew or met us was impressed and inspired by how solid we were, how much we loved eachother. Right after our wedding I had to leave the country and we spent two years traveling all across Central America and Europe. Afterwards, we lived 2.5 wonderful years in Missoula. We both wanted to have children and build a family, but we thought, before settleing down we would do one last crazy adventure: we flew to Spain, where we bought a Land Rover with which to travel all across Africa, from Spain to South Africa. It was an amazing experience and (as everybody could witness) we were both very happy when we finally reached Cape Town, South Africa in Jan 2016. She liked to sing this song she had come up with when we were still in Spain preparing for our journey: "It's Monkey and Bunny and Robert, It's Monkey and Bunny and Robert, Off to see the world!!". Our life was like a remake of "Adventure Time", her favorite children TV show. It's just that we were Monkey and Bunny, as she suggested at the beginning of our 1-year long European trip. I was Monkey, she was the cute Bunny and Robert was our Land Rover across Africa.
In Cape Town we met a Land Rover mechanic (Gary) who told us he wanted to help us get our car all fixed up, equipped and ready for our way back North. However, we had to do the work, he was going to teach us what and how to do it and let us use his tools. Actually, my wife was going to do the work, since I am severely visually impaired. We could not imagine then, the man's real plan was to keep us around, so that he could have enough time to conquer my wife. After 4 weeks at Gary's workshop, one morning my wife got up and immediately left to disappear for the whole day. She only returned at sunset to tell me: "she was going to leave me because she was sick of dragging me around the supermarkets". She then asked me if I had something to say about it and, since I hadn't, she spent the rest of the evening crying. The next day, at dinner time, I told her I did not wanted to be a burden for her; she did not have to cook dinner for me, I would do it myself. She got angry and told me she was going to go stay with Gary and his wife from then on. I got shocked. She also started saying I should also take responsibility for my mistakes, because, if I thought I had not done anything wrong, I was as wrong as she was". The next day, when she came back to the workshop, I told her I thought we should talk. We drove to some beach,. I started by asking what it was that I had done wrong, but after 1-2 hours talking, she got mad  (when I started remembering the many fights she started for the most stupid reasons, at the beginning of our relationship) and drove away, leaving me stranded on that beach for the night. The next day, back in the workshop, I was told she had tried to commit suicide that evening at the workshop (I am not sure how serious she was about it, since she was alone when it happened and nobody could stop her). Gary never wanted a relationship with her, he only wanted to conquer a 30 year younger white, blond, blue-eyed "American chick, so in love with her pathetic blind husband". So, after one week, she flew back from Cape Town to  ontana.
All since then she has been pointing fingers at me and putting all the blame on me. According to her, she has always taking responsibility for her mistakes, but I never have. I am convinced she got messed up by that cassanova asshole (Gary). She made an horrible mistake trusting him and desperately falling in love with him and now is not being able to take responsibility for our marriage failure. Our marriage was of supreme importance to her and it hurts her very deeply to think she blew it up. It is more comforting to convince herself our marriage was horrible and nothing to mourn over. I believe her parents also helped her in that (they never liked me and hated we married. She is their only child and when we married, as she had just become 21, they felt I was stealing her baby). I have always thought her mother is obsessed with her. My wife's biological father separated from her mother, when she was a few months old. He took the baby (my wife) with him. According to the mother, he kidnapped her, but he only went to his parents and the mother never did anything to get her back. When my wife was 1.5 years old, he brought her back to his wife and shortly after commited suicide. The mother has tolg her so many times about that first night that she was back in the house after having been kidnapped. The mother thought she had missed the baby's first steps, the baby's first words, the baby's first tooth... That night she promised the baby: "never again. She would not miss anything again. Mother and daughter, they will be together forever". I believe my wife's mother has played a major part convincing her she has not done anything wrong: our marriage was horrible and she did the right thing when she put an end to it. I had been an asshole to her.
My wife has never admitted she left me because she was tricked and fell in love with that cassanova asshole. Instead she first blamed it on my disability, then on the fights we had (even when she admitted "she had played a big part in starting and exacerbating those fights"), later she has been saying I was using her as my servant, my chauffeur and I was being an asshole to her. However, I know the real reason why she left me was that she fell in love with that casanova asshole, because, some months ago, I found a love letter she wrote to him.
Few months after she had returned from Cape Town, she went to Alaska to start some exhausting, minimum-wage job she had found. In Alaska she met and immediately started a relationship with another man. They immediately wanted to marry, but they could not, since my wife has never wanted to file for divorce or file any paperwork otherwise. Those days I was contacted on Facebook by some woman: she told me my wife was living in Alaska with her partner. She explained he went to Alaska trying to recover from a strong crack-cocaine addiction, after he lost everything in Houston: his job, his family, etc. They both have three children in Houston. My wife indeed was feeling very lonely and depressed after returning from Cape Town. One day she posted on Facebook: "God, I really need somebody come with me hang out at my father's cabin in Rock Creek". My wife was a single child and has always struggled being alone. She needs a lot of love. Since she left me in Cape Town, I have always tried to work things out with her. I thought I should be intelligent and realize Iit would be stupid to give up a wonderful relationship, just because a minute of stupidity; just because she made a stupid mistake, (as a result of her immaturity), falling in love with that cassanova asshole. I have always felt she was the first victim of the horrible parenting she received from her mother. Her mother always allowed her to do whatever she wanted. When she was 11 she started smoking and doing drugs (pod, mushrooms, glue, etc.). When she was 14, she dropped out of school (not because she was a bad student; but because "at school they were all stupid and hated her and were teaching her only stupid stuff").  Her mother's basic parenting theory has always been her daughter is very intelligent, she always knows what she is doing, therefore we should all respect her decisions. As a matter of fact, she was intelligent enough to figure out all by herself (without her parents guidance), she was taking her life to a total disaster. So, at 16, she went back to school and started college. Then when she met me, she wanted very badly to succeed in our marriage and stopped smoking and doing any drups.  She worked hard  to be a good wife to me. After the initial struggles, we were doing very well. In our last months in Missoula, before taking off for our Africa adventure, I was working as a freelancer remotely, over the internet and making a fair amount of money. She did not have to worry for money and could work in whatever she wanted. Those last months she enjoyed creating, doing art and working as a seamstress. We could also choose where in the world we wanted to live. We were planning on settling down in Hawaii (since she loves the beach), after our African journey. We had it all and she gave it all up for a fancy. That is how immature she is. She fell in love with that cassanova asshole and could not think of anything else but to love him forever. When he explained he only wanted to be friends, she must have convinced herself she also only wanted to be friends. I think she must have also concluded, after she had betrayed me like that, our marriage was over: I would never be able to love her again. It seems to me it must have been like when somebody knocks off a very precious, ancient chinese Ming dinasty vase and it breaks down in thousand pieces: it would be possible to try to glue it back together, but it  would never be the same. At that point, instead of crying over the spilled milk for the rest of her life, it is better to start thinking that vase was a piece of crap and she has always hated it anyway.
I have never seen it that way and have always tried to work things out with her. Unfortunately, it has been completely impossible to explain my wife I wanted to forgive her for betraying me. Rather, she is mad at me as if I had done to her what she has actually done to me. She is convinced our marriage was horrible, I was an asshole to her and she did the right thing getting rid of me. In March 2017, she wrote an email to my mother (she had a very good relationship with her) explaining 5-15 reasons why she had left me. However, none of them were true at all. She was not making any mention she had fallen in love with Gary either. Myself, I spent 2017 in Cape Town, trying to prove her I was not pathetic and useless (as she had said) and did not need her as my chauffeur and servant to travel across Africa. Back then I still had not found the love letter she wrote to that cassanova asshole and was not completely aware of the true reasons why she had left me. However, during these last couple of years, my eye-sight has deteriorated abruptly as a result of the stress and depression she has put me in.  So, I gave up on my plans to continue traveling across Africa. I spent the second half of 2017 writing a very honest and emotional  email message to her, trying to explain it was not true our marriage had been awful, I had not been an asshole, she had just got messed up and we should try to work things out. She never replied; I do not think she read it. In October 2017 she sent me a short email complaining I had written and published on our travel blog a "sad story" about the many problems I had gone through in Cape Town (I got attacked and assaulted several times. She had taken control of the blog and unpublished the story, as if it would hurt her to read it. I became hopeful deep inside she still kept her feelings for me. I thought I might be able to wake her up with my email. Unfortunately, it did not happen.
Beginning of 2018, I returned to the US. I went to New York because I needed to do something about my eyes. I needed to have surgery because I had become basically blind. My mother told my wife about my sufferings, but she remained totally indiferent. and never wanted to express any concern. She has not wanted to talk to me. I finally had my first eye surgery last September and now had a few weeks until my next post-surgery, follow-up appointment. So I decided to come to Missoula to finally see her again for the first time since she left me in Cape Town in Feb 2016. One week ago, I went to our old house. I knocked on the door. She opened it, saw me and (without a word being spoken by her or by me) she mmediately closed it again and locked it up.. Then, her current lover (cecilio, the father of the three children in Houston), came from behind the house and told me to leave. Since I insisted I wanted to talk to my wife, he eventually pushed me and throwed me away. Then, they called the police on me. The police told me I was not allowed back there. However, all my stuff is still in that house and me and my wife need to discuss things, even if it is just our divorce (not only in the US, but also in Spain and Switzerland).
I feel like I would be able to solve all this problem, if I would be able to communicate with my wife. However that seems to be completely beyond my posibilities. I have contacted a few mediation services, but I have been told she needs to request mediation as well. Clearly, it seems impossible to convince her to do so. I am being told my only option is to file for divorce.
My Questions:
- Is there anyway I would be allowed to access my stuff in our old house (the house belongs to my mother-in-law)? If so, what would I need to do?
- My wife has been a total asshole to me since she left me. She has been psychologically abusing me: she blamed me for her attempt of suicide. She said I was useless and pathetic She insisted I was using her as my servant and chauffeur and had been an asshole to her. She put me in a state of depression that caused the abrupt loss of eye-sight I have suffered this last two years.  Would it be possible to sue her for psychologically abusing me, without having to file for divorce? I would like her to realize, if she insists in being an asshole to me, it will have harsh consequences on her. Maybe, that way, she will accept communicating with me.

- If I file for divorce, could I do it in New York, where I have been living and receiving medical treatment these last months? We married in Missoula, but since we were living in my mother-in-law's house, now that my wife left me and is living there with her new lover, I do no longer have a stable place to stay in Missoula.. I am currently staying with friends near Arlee. I will also need to have some mor eye surgeries and I will not be able to have them done in Montana.
- If  I file for divorce, under what conditions would I be able to request and receive alimony? My wife's current lover is not paying the child support he owes, because he is making money off the books (they are even living on Schedule A public housing, although they are living at my wife's mother's house and are therefore not really paying any rent!). If I am granted alimony, to what extend would it be possible for her avoid paying it? I would like her to realize, if she insists in being an asshole to me, it will have harsh consequences on her. Maybe, that way, she will accept communicating with me.
- if I file for divorce and we do not reach an agreement, would we eventually have to battle in a courtroom?
- I have thought of possible ways I could get her out of her denial. I have considered trying to talk to some of her friends (or even neighbors) to have them speak and reason with her. Could that eventually be taken as harassment and be used against me?

Africa Travel Guide - Namibia - General information

/Namibia


No visa is required for most passports.

Upon entry to Namibia, payment of a road fund is required:

Road Fund: 242 Namibian Dollars

12 December 2015

Africa Travel Guide - Namibia - Etosha National Park

Etosha National Park


80 Namibian Dollars per person, 10 Namibian Dollars per car

Safaris:
Day Tours: 500 Namibian Dollars per person for a 3 hours guided tour on park's vehicles
Night Tours: 500  Namibian Dollars per person for a 3 hours guided tour on park's vehicles

Camping: 200 Namibian Dollars per campsite + 146 Namibian Dollars per person

Etosha National Park was without a doubt one of the highlights of our journey through Africa. We really had a blast in Etosha and will forever remember the two days we spent there among the very best days of our travels. It was very exciting visiting the park, we saw many wild animals we had not seen before. The park authorities and personnel were very friendly and made us feel really comfortable. They did not put any stress to our visit setting an endless number of ridiculous rules and restrictions. This is quite remarkable considering the unique experience the park offers. Moreover, the park's fees are very affordable and reasonable, what allowed us to take our time and fully enjoy the park.















30 November 2015

Africa Travel Guide - Angola - Iona National Park

Iona Parque Nacional


Iona National Park is 220km south of Namibe. It is possible to access Iona  from Namibe, Lubango o Cahama. The easiest access is from Namibe. From Namibe, the first 63 kilometers are on an excellent paved road towards Tombua. However, before reaching Tombua, you need to take the turn off to the left, direction Iona. The dirt road that follows used to be in very bad condition, but it has been fixed in the last years and it is now possible to drive at medium speeds (80kms/h - 40kms/h). Entrance to the park is about 165km from Namibe (90kms from the turn off). Around 50kms further south from the entrance is Espineira. 30kms east of Espineira is Sede de Iona.

From Lubango or Cahama, you first get to Curoca (also named Oncocua). We did not do the road from Lubango (we had been told by Alvaro Baptista, the 'concesionario de Iona', it was in horrible condition, although we later heard from some locals in Curoca, it was in good condition). Instead we drove the road connecting Curoca with Cahama. In Cahama there are still ATMs, gas station and food shops. The first 60kms from Cahama to Curoca are on a good gravel road. The next 90kms to reach Curoca are on a very good dirt road. In Curoca it is possible to find a little car parts store as well as a little food shop.

Whether you come from Lubango or from Cahama, the stretch from Curoca to Iona is on a really bad dirt road. This road crosses many river beds. According to Alvaro Baptista, it would not be possible to cross these rivers in the rainy season (Feb-Apr). Even in the dry season, when the rivers are dry, the journey is quite a challenge, out of reach of most cars. The first 25km west of Curoca are still OK, but the next 75-100kms to Sede de Iona are really bad. On the other hand, the trip represents a fascinating and beautiful adventure through the land of the Himba people. The Himba people is the most primitive tribe we have met throughout our journey along the Atlantic African countries.

Iona National Park Entry Fee: 2000 Kuanzas for the vehicle and driver + 1500 Kuanzar per additional passenger in the car.

The park has very few visitors, so the rangers are very friendly and happy to see adventurous travellers. We only had two 2000 Kuanzas bills left. The rangers at the gate did not have any change. Needless to say, credit cards were not accepted. We explained we needed the change in order to be able to buy gas and food to get back to town. The rangers accepted to only take 2000 Kuanzas.

When we arrived at Espineira, we were told we would be charged for each day we stay in the park. We explained we did not have money left. We were therefore not able to take any guided tour. We were also told by the ranger in Espineira we were not allowed to drive our car in Iona. But that did not make any sense since we ended up driving about 100km across Iona. Probably he meant we were not suppossed to use our vehicle to go on a safari, searching for animals.

Whether you want to visit Iona park on your own or on a guided tour, it is highly advisable to contact Alvaro Baptista in Namibe, for the most accurate and reliable information.

Alvaro Baptista's office numbers are:

+244 923 452 748
+244 923 568 442

Alvaro Baptista's camp in Iona is 12 kilometers north of the park's Northern entrance, that is 155 kilometers coming from Namibe.